Don't say you haven't thought about it, so loose those inhibitions and push your own buttons.
Now obviously if you haven't tried one before, there's no way of knowing what you'll like before trying it, so hopefully we can guide you through that first purchase. Think about what you like and what stimulation turns you on. If you not sure, give yourself a helping hand and discover what stimulation you prefer. If you uncomfortable with masturbation, sex toys aren't going to make that easier. So set some time aside and get to know yourself and if you still not too sure about this, check out our masturbation article which we'll be posting soon. So now you know what you like or at least have a good idea, as this is an important part in making the right decision.
There's a variety of toys out there that look pretty fancy and come at some steep prices, but you may want to steer away from these initially when making your first purchase, that is unless you have your heart set on something.
My advice is to go for something inexpensive and versatile, something that you can use in a few different ways and is a cheap experiment if it doesn't do it for you, although we're pretty sure it will. Remember toys aren't made for different people, they made for different pleasures so remembering what stimulation you like, you should choose accordingly.
There are toys designed for internal stimulation, external or both, plus a myriad of others that do just about everything in between. Next you'll need to decide whether you're after some good vibrations or just some manual stimulation. Think globally here, well around you're heavenly body that is, and remember that we suggested something versatile. Those little vibrations can be used to stimulate other parts of the body too you know, don't forget about those nipples and you could even experiment with some anal stimulation.
Starting with the basics, you'll probably be looking at either a vibrator, dildo or possibly a vibrating bullet. If you a little more experimental, the rabbit series of vibrators has been a hit for years, but remember this is your first one, so don't be overwhelmed if it's a little bit bigger and flashier than you expected. The vibrating bullets are excellent little starter vibes, they small, good value for money and very versatile. These will give you a good idea of better things to come, plus you could share this one with your other half. If you're after some internal stimulation, a vibrator can be a good first buy, but remember that you might want to opt for a smaller model initially. Vibrators are also excellent for beginners as you have a two in one toy here. They can be used as dildo's or vibrators and you can experiment on other erogenous zones too, but he may want you to keep this one away from him. You could also opt for a vibrating cock ring as a first toy for both of you and this will give you some idea of what's in store if you decide to take the next step.
Choosing and buying your first toy can be as exciting and adventurous as using it for the first time, so enjoy enjoy your experience, it will only get better.
As a side note and something to remember. Sex toys are made out of a variety of materials and people can have reactions to some of these. This has been addresses quite a bit in recent years with manufacturers, but you still shouldn't take a chance. It's recommended that you check what materials the product is made from with the shop, if it isn't listed, before purchasing and stop using it immediately if you have any allergic reactions.
And lastly, find a quality shop that you can trust, most won't accept returns if you don't like the product, but you want to deal with a company that will honour their warranty should something go wrong.
Hope this gave you at least a little insight into the world of sex toys and some idea's to help you choose your first one, now go out there and start pushing your own buttons.
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